where angels wander

It didn’t take Google for me to know that the concept of complete cellular renewal in the human body every seven years is a myth. I know that no neurons are added to the cerebral cortex after birth. I know that the cells of your cornea are with you your entire life; they get tired […]

Dear Dad

September 20, 2014 Dear Dad – Can you believe it’s been five years? Yeah, me either! I can’t believe it’s been five years since we lost you. I can’t believe it’s been five years of blog posts and I haven’t once resorted to an epistolary model…until now. A lot has gone on in the last […]


Today is my father’s birthday. He would have turned 74 today. I go around and around on where to use the past tense around his birthday – November 29 is the anniversary of the day he was born, and that didn’t change when he died. But he’s not here to celebrate or add more years, […]

Weekly whiskey

Even in college, when I did my heaviest drinking, I was a social drinker. Maybe it was growing up in a household where no one drank much, maybe I was just cheap, maybe drinking with friends was just more fun, but I rarely had so much as a beer by myself. And that didn’t change […]

The Lines

Every week I listen to the Slate Gabfest podcast, usually on a Friday morning, much like today. Today’s episode featured a third topic slightly off from the standard insightful political discussion: instead the panel spoke about a recent photo feature in the New York Times illustrating Beastie Boy Mike D’s lavish new Brooklyn townhome. Did […]

My Man Pink

It’s been another year, and I was thinking it would be a good time to share another Dad story. I got kind of caught up inside my own brain for a while, thinking of recent changes in my life, the way Dad’s memory influences me and affects me still. I’ve been doing a lot of […]

Rising up.

It rises up, the grief. It comes up at happy times, and perversely stays away at sad ones. It wants to defy anticipation. “Here is a day I will feel it,” I’ll think, and then it will not appear, only to come up at another time. When it is fresh, it doesn’t have to rise […]


Last night when I got home after a nice evening out, I sat down in front of the TV for a little while. The Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King was on one of the cable channels, and I was sucked in easily enough. It was near the end of the movie, […]

A year, more or less

If I’m remembering correctly, we got our first VCR in 1983. Thanks to the diligence (and good guesswork) of my brother, we chose correctly in the VHS vs. Beta showdown. With the clunky machine in the back of the car as we drove home from Sears, we stopped at one of the first video-rental stores […]